Dual-Gender Macrochimerism Microupdate

In a recent post I mentioned that males raised as women from birth (complete with GRS, HRT) transition back to male at a rate several orders of magnitude above the general population rate of transition.

A friend reminded me of a similar case we learned about in AP Psychology. The tragic case of David Reimer. David had a botched circumcision that led to a sex reassignment surgery. His parents took him to see popular psychologist, John Money who believed that babies are born gender neutral and gendered behaviors are socially conditioned. They feared that their son could not lead a satisfactory male life without a penis and intended to seek his counsel about raising him as a girl.

Money convinced the parents and surgical team at John Hopkins that David would be better off if raised as a girl. As it happened, David had a twin brother and so this would be an excellent test of Money’s theory. David also had developmentally typical anatomy, unlike most of the ambiguous genitals that lead to ablations in previous studies that could confound the results.

The entire ordeal reads like a trans person’s worst nightmare. Your parents, your psychologist, your physician are all telling you that you’re supposed to be a girl. Putting you through bizarre and degrading scenarios in an effort to convince you to get additional GRS and continue HRT. The entire time you feel like you must be the crazy one, yet you’re also pretty sure you don’t want to feminize further and don’t understand why everyone is so interested that you do.

David expressed it best:

Doctor … said, it’s gonna be tough, you’re going to be picked on, you’re gonna be very alone, you’re not gonna find anybody unless you have vaginal surgery and live as a female. And I thought to myself, you know I wasn’t very old at the time but it dawned on me that these people gotta be pretty shallow if that’s the only thing they think I’ve got going for me; that the only reason why people get married and have children and have a productive life is because of what they have between their legs.

If that’s all they think of me, that they justify my worth by what I have between my legs, then I gotta be a complete loser.

I’d like to note that this case is similar to the other ones mentioned in that resistance to their assigned gender identity increased as puberty approached and progressed. It’s also a half point for chromosomal organization of gender identity, instead of hormonal because it doesn’t rule out the effect of prenatal hormonal exposure.

Dual-Gender Macrochimerism

I stumbled across this paper:

The title is certainly interesting, even it if it’s watered down by the “predicted to be” meaning it’s mostly well grounded speculation. It’s doubly interesting if you’re a narcissistic trans woman on the search for the underlying biological mechanism responsible for making your life more annoying than necessary.

So what is it all about, and how is it connected to gender dysphoria? To understand the paper we have to understand genetic chimerism. Chimerism is when an organism is composed of cells with two or more distinct genotypes. Microchimerism is when small amounts of cells in an organism have different genotypes from the host. The most common occurrence of microchimerism is fetomaternal microchimerism. Fetomaternal microchimerism occurs during pregnancy, when small amounts of the baby’s cells will cross the placenta and take residence in the mother’s body (and vice versa). Prevalence of these cells decrease with age, but have been found even 27 years postpartum.

Macrochimerism is a whole other ball game. The most common cause of macrochimerism is when a two zygotes merge. This can result in entire organs being of a different genotype from each other. This can occur with different zygotes with differently sexed chromosomes as well. One of the most interesting cases of this is hermaphroditism (intersex), where an individual has both sets of genitalia and/or reproductive organs. Most cases of macrochimerism are not so obvious. Typically they are subtle, harmless, and go unnoticed unless the person has their DNA tested. This makes it difficult to determine the true rate of macrochimerism.

This brings us back to Brian Hanley’s paper. He correctly points out that dual-gender macrochimerism exists, and other forms of non-visible macrochimerism exist. Therefore it is likely there are non-obvious dual-gender macrochimeras, in which other, non sexual, tissues are affected. In Brian’s words:

…the existence of human macrochimeras in which large proportions of cells are male and female is predicted to have a correlation with homosexuality and transgender self-identification because in many such cases, the central nervous system, or crucial parts of it, will be of one sex and the gonads and body form will be of the opposite sex.

So far so good, but the paper is mostly speculation. Brian hazards a guess at the true rate of macrochimerism but admits he is probably off by “orders of magnitude.” He provides a framework for the sort of longitudinal study that would be necessary to properly study the prevalence of macrochimeras, but I don’t see them happening anytime soon I won’t hold my breath.

Genotype vs. Hormones

The most interesting part of Brian’s paper was the assertion that the sex of the nervous system is as important, if not more important contributor to gendered behavior than the hormonal environment the system developed in.

This surprised me because I have first hand experience that hormones change the way one thinks and feels. I would have guessed that brain development was guided by the hormonal environment it was soaking in, which in turn was dictated by the chromosomes of the gonads. This is not without scientific support. For example, gendered personality traits seems to be effected by pre-natal exposure to androgens, and I believe there are some studies on homosexuality and transsexuality that find correlations as well.

Brian references three studies in support of this assertion:

Bilateral Brained Finches

This paper discusses a species of finch with gender differentiable brains. One difference is that the males have a stronger “song circuit” in their brains that causes them, but not the females, to sing a courtship song. There is some evidence that hormonal environment affects brain development in these finches. Female finches exposed to estradiol develop a song circuit similar to males and sing the courtship song. However these finches did not exhibit completely sex reversed behavior, and males with testicular hormonal blockers still develop the song circuit. This suggests that both hormones and sex chromosomes are important for gendered neural development.

Conveniently, a rare gynandromorphic bilateral brained finch was found, with a nearly symmetric split between male and female. You can see the bilateral split in the plumage.

Bilateral Gynandromorphic Finch

One side (B) has male plumage, the other side (C) female plumage. The researchers found the finch had a masculinized right hemisphere and much less masculinized, and partially feminized left hemisphere. This provides evidence that the effect chromosomes of nervous tissue are not over powered by the developmental or current hormonal environment.

To be honest, and this is definitely talking out of my depth, the experiment didn’t seem as conclusive on the brain differences as the other anatomical differences. Although the “song circuit” was larger on the right (male) side of the brain, there were issues comparing the size to the controls, which would have proved insightful.


In contrast to the finches, these quail brain chimeras had to be built, not found. Japanese quails have a male organized brain by default that is thought to be de-masculinized by estrogen, transforming it into a female organized brain. Fortunately, this differentiation happens after the brain starts to appear during gestation. This allows crazy people researchers to graft cross-sex forebrain primordium, causing the birds to develop cross-sexed brains.

Male-forebrained, female host quails showed typical female quail behaviors, including sexual behavior. This is congruent with the idea that estrogen (prevalent in female quails) demasculinizes the transplanted forebrain, reorganizing it to be more feminine. A point for the hormonal basis for gendered brain differences.

Female-forebrained, male host quails are a different case. They exhibited reduced male behaviors, and reduced to non-existant male sexual behaviors. In addition, sexually dimorphic brain features such as the medial preoptic nucleus were found to be feminized despite being raised in a male hormonal environment. A point for the genotype basis for gendered brain differences.

I would be interested to know if gay Japanese quails exist, and if they do, what their typical behaviors are so they can be compared to the cross-sexed quails. I know it’s a faux pas to conflate sex with sexuality, but given their ontological proximity and extremely high rates of correlation I would be surprised if the biological mechanisms weren’t intertwined in some fashion.


Birds are great (#bavi) but what about people? Do we have any questionably ethical studies where we manipulate the hormonal, anatomical or genetic components of humans that might give us some insight?

Yes, yes we do!

In 1975 there was a study that followed the development of males born with abnormally small, or missing penises. Since they were too small to function, doctors removed them, essentially performing infant GRS. The “men” were raised as girls from birth, complete with HRT and raised as girls since birth.

From the abstract:

Forty-five cases of genetic males were assigned and habilitated as females, 43 because of a congenitally defective penis (micropenis with or without hypo- spadias], and two because of infantile ablatio penis. One of the latter has an identical twin brother as a control. Now 9 years old, she has differentiated a female gender identity in marked contrast to the male gender identity of her brother. Some of the other patients are now adolescent or adult in age. They demonstrate that the twin can expect to be feminine in erotic expression and sexual life. Maintained on estrogen therapy, she will have normal feminine physique and a sexually attractive appearance. She will be able to establish motherhood by adoption.

I guess that settles the debate, hormonal and social environment trump genetics.

Now, if you’re like me, you might notice that 9 is a bit young to be drawing conclusions. Pre-pubescent humans still have some significant phase of development from which the brain is not exempt. For instance, gendered personality differences don’t manifest until after puberty, indicating that there is significant differentiation that takes place during puberty.

Fortunately someone did a follow up study  and found that the child in question transitioned to male after puberty and has been comfortably living as one since. A similar study found that 8 out of 14 males assigned girls at birth (for similar reasons) ended up identifying as males by puberty and 6/14 even transitioned physically. The 2 other males with the same condition were raised as males and decided to remain as males. Although the sample size is smöl, gender dysphoria and transition are sufficiently rare that this high rate of transition is shocking and convincing.


So what did we learn? I learned that performing infant GRS should probably be halted until we have more research. I also learned that human brain development is not what that I thought is was.

My new model of gendered brain differences:

  1. Gonads develop according to gonadal chromosomes
  2. Different gonads produce different sex hormones
  3. This hormonal environment informs the organization of tissue, including the brain
  4. Brains that develop in a male hormonal environment are organizationally male and vice versa.
  5. Brains are organized, and thus gendered differentiated, due to genotypical and hormonal factors.

A lot more (expensive, time consuming) research needs to be done. I am convinced that the “sex” of human nervous tissue is a significant determinant in human gendered behavior and identification and that dual-gender macrochimerism is a plausible biological mechanism behind the transgender phenomenon.

A Letter to Dr. Peterson

Tonight I have the pleasure of attending a talk in San Francisco featuring Jordan Peterson. As an avid fan girl of Dr. Peterson, I am very excited to meet him in person and deliver a letter of thanks.

If you ever doubt Peterson’s claims about the letters he receives, then you can know that at least one is true.

Dear Professor Peterson,

I am so happy to meet you in person and wanted to express my sincere gratitude for your works. My life is orders of magnitude better and I now have the tools to move forward.

I had been suicidally depressed for two years before coming out as transgender. While this provided temporary relief; I had spent two years building up the most vicious, overly rational and nihilistic arguments against existence, hoping to convince myself into suicide. I was afraid that during difficult times in the future, these demons would come back to lecture me on the irredeemable corruption of being and, lacking a counter argument, I would be equally vulnerable.

Synchronous, perhaps, that I was introduced to your works through your criticism of Bill C-16. I found your assessment apt and your University of Toronto free speech oration unforgettable. Intrigued, it lead me to your lecture series and I can honestly say I have watched every video on your YouTube channel. You are the first person in my life to adequately acknowledge the suffering of being while providing a theory for transcending it.

Tangentially related, I think your assessment of trans activists is correct. They do not represent me and often work against my interests by undermining the biological basis of gender. The idea that trans people cannot exist in a system with free expression is infantilizing and laughable. Given the nature of dysphoria, I think that trans people in particular could benefit from your lectures.

Thank you,
-Amy Jie

Figuring Out I Was Transgender

I am often asked “Did you have bottom surgery yet?” and regrettably inform them that no, I still have a penis.

Something that I also get asked a lot is, “How did you figure out you were transgender?” or it’s cousin, “When did you know you were transgender?”

📅 When

I knew I was transgender when I was 24. I know that this answer disappoints a lot of people, and probably any psychs that had to write me a letter.

Although there are a lot of things that make a lot more sense in retrospect that occurred well before I was 24, I never properly articulated the thought until I was 24.

💁🏼 How

I figured out I was transgender by watching a video series “Are You Transgender.” Specifically the following video series at the 4:08 mark of the second video:

I was working on a mobile app and I usually listen to lectures on YouTube to keep me company and maybe teach me a thing or two. So, like a normal cis-het-boy I queued up the “Are You Transgender” playlist.

I have a distinct memory of when I heard the speaker say:

If you are watching this video for yourself, or researching what transgender is online, then you are likely transgender.

After hearing this improper implication, I alt-tabbed back to YouTube and smugly paused the video. It’s true, just because you’re asking the question “Am I transgender?” definitely doesn’t imply you are transgender.

I resumed the video and the next line hit me like a truck:

Because cis-gender people do not ask this question, “Am I transgender?”

Why was I listening to to this playlist? This wasn’t the first time I had watched a video on this, or taken a stupid quiz about it, or read blog articles similar to the one I’m writing now or asked myself “am I transgender?”

Laughably I recall thinking;

Yeah just because I frequently wish I was a girl doesn’t mean I’m transgender.

It wasn’t as funny of a revelation at the time. I remember my heart stopping, my eyes widening and my blood turning cold as I realized, “Oh shit, that’s exactly what that word means.”

I spent the next six hours recontextualizing my life and eventually pulled myself together enough to walk down the street and come out to my friend.

🤦🏼‍♀️ Confusion

If you read my other post about All These Things That I’ve Done or are familiar with the standard narrative of “I’ve known since I was 3 years old” you might be confused as to why it took me 24 years to figure it out. This is the difference between knowing things and being unable (or unwilling) to articulate things.

If you asked me straight up and pressed me I would have confessed to wanting to be female. I knew that’s what I wanted but I hadn’t yet articulated to myself that meant I should transition and therefore I was transgender. Once I was able to articulate the concept of being transgender I was able to act because I had a framework to work within. Until I did that I just thought I was weird (albeit in specific ways stable across time) and being weird doesn’t explain what you are supposed to do, if anything.

So why was I unable to connect the dots? I think it is mostly from ignorance and a tiny bit from internalized cis-sexism. I sincerely believe had I known a trans person growing up I would have come out much earlier. I would have confided in them some of my thoughts and proclivities, laughed nervously and said something to the effect of “but that’s not like you at all, right?” and gotten hit like a hammer when I learned my experience is fairly typical. I didn’t believe I was”trans enough” to be transgender, I thought everyone knew with certainty since they were small children. Sure I wanted to be female, but I didn’t know if I should transition. To be fair, transition is very intimidating. It is long, painful, expensive, time consuming and the results are not guaranteed. In addition, I knew I wanted to be female, but I wasn’t sure if I wanted to be trans. There was probably a little bit of cis-sexism that held me back from exploring the possibility of living as a trans woman.

🤷🏼‍♀️ Questioning

I think everyone questioning their gender identity should understand that you will never be 100% certain about transition. There is no way to know before you do it that such a radically life altering event will be for the better. It is a supremely non-trivial commitment to transition. It is an act of faith that will require many sacrifices.

While coming out I was complicit in perpetuating the ultra-confident, I’ve always known meme. You sort of have to; there’s no “proof” you’re trans besides your own confidence. It took me 24 years to understand and I lived it, I can’t just hope that other people will “just get it” based on my own new, limited and unconfident expression. I think this narrative is dangerous because I delayed transition because I didn’t think I was “trans enough.” Please don’t make the same mistake I did.

I would like to share a quote from Julia Serano’s book, Whipping Girl that I think explains the feeling  I had pre-transition:


Trying to translate these subconscious experiences into conscious thought is a messy business. All of the words available in the English language completely fail to accurately capture or convey my personal understanding of these events. For example, if I were to say that I “saw” myself as female, or “knew” myself to a girl, I would be denying the fact that I was consciously aware of my physical maleness at all times. And saying that I “wished” or “wanted” to be a girl erases how much being female made sense to me, how it felt right on the deepest, most profound level of my being. I could say that I “felt” like a girl, but that give the false impression that I knew how other girls (and other boys) felt. And if I were to say that I was “supposed to be” a girl, or that I “should have been born” female, it would imply that I had some sort of cosmic insight into the grand scheme of the universe, which I most certainly did not.

Julia later elaborates on about “feeling” like a woman:

Speaking for myself, I can honestly say that I have never “felt like a woman” before my transition. Even as a preteen struggling with the inexplicable and persistent desire to be female, I understood how problematic that popular cliché was. After all, how can anyone know what it’s like to “feel like a woman” or “feel like a man” when we can never really know how anybody else feels on the inside?

All emphasis mine.

I definitely fell into the trap that I didn’t feel like a woman, so I wasn’t TruTrans™ (even though I had an “inexplicable and persistent desire” to be female). It was only in self reflection I realized how foolish it was to use this reason to keep myself from transition. If you’re considering transition I sincerely hope this post helps you avoid making the same mistake I did.


All These Things That I’ve Done

I’m writing this post to document everything that hinted at my later transition. This is a living list; I’ll add to it as I remember new things.


This post is about all the weird stuff I did growing up prior to transitioning. Needless to say, some of it is sexual; so if that’s not your cup of tea then it’s time to leave.

It is my hope that someone who is questioning themselves can find some comfort and courage by reading this. Don’t be discouraged if you don’t measure up to my level of madness or idiocy. My friend didn’t act strangely at all and she’s thrilled with her transition.

If you have questions you can email me at: amy@adhackers.club or find me on the dying micro blogging site Twitter @missamyjie


Girlfriends is as a good as any place to start. A lot of my peculiarities came out around them and they help provide a context to some of my other stories. Looking back I noticed that I almost never initiated a relationship. I would hang around even them until the awkwardness was so unbearable they’d ask me out of frustration. Most of my girl friends were convinced I was gay until I accepted their propositions. So close and yet so far 😛

I was anti-thesis of the boy that just wants sex. I wanted to be “really good friends” that spent all their time together. That cooked and cleaned together. That lived together. I didn’t mind sex, but preferred if she lead.


In 8th grade, my first “girlfriend” would invite me over to her house. We’d go into the basement and watch movies. Her mom was a “cool mom” because she’d just give a knowing smile and leave us be. Despite all this, I always left a space between us and more focused on the movie than her. She moved to a different town and broke up with me.

It’s not that I didn’t like her, or that she wasn’t pretty. It was like we were friends, not boyfriend and girlfriend.

Middle school is stupid anyways so this barely counts. It does corroborate the pattern though.


My next girlfriend was part of my robotics team friend group. She constantly tried to get me to have sex with her in ways I found painfully embarrassing. I never did have sex with her although she did get me to do some sexual things with her. I think she ended up cheating on me, but I never bothered to confirm. I did, however, find out she had dated most boys I knew for brief periods. I was the only one to resist her siren’s call and I think that threw her through quite a loop.

I remember sitting on the couch with her and she came on to me, as strongly as ever, and asked me what I’d like to do. Like a total weirdo I blurted, “We could switch clothes.” She was briefly taken aback by the suggestion but then followed up with “Oh? And why is that?” Obviously, I wanted her to facilitate my crossdressing. For better of for worse I replied, “To see you naked” instead. She seemed content with this but I was so upset that I couldn’t feign interest and went home.


H was the first and only girl that I made a move on. To be fair, I did sit next to her in the school hallway for an hour each morning for an entire year before asking her to prom. She refused to go with on account of having a boyfriend, but we ended up dancing in the school parking lot after prom had ended and dating shortly thereafter.

We dated until I was suspended from college. I crossdressed in her room a lot, shared my nascent trans thoughts with her and even convinced her to peg me twice. I have a sliver of a memory of her intimating I should “get help at an LGBT center” and me quickly shooting that idea down. I’m just weird I’m not TruTrans™ Haha.

I was super clingy and she was wisely more interested in studying than having sex with me. I also think she stopped thinking my crossdressing was worth enabling and decided it was time to move on. Move on with my friend 😒 but move on all the same.


I met S when I returned from my suspension. She caught my eye in the computer science class I was taking at the time (for reasons detailed below 😏) and, in desperate need of new friends, I sat next to her.

She eventually warmed to me and I would come over to her house everyday to talk with her. She started intimating that I should spend the night and I took the hint and slept on the couch. Then she said I should sleep in her room on a spare mattress. Then she dragged the mattress next to hers. Then one night she rolled onto my bed. I figured it out eventually and we dated briefly before she broke contact for another guy. We got back together at some point and we friends to this day.


N went much the same way. We met at a party and eventually started hanging out. Night after night I would visit her, drink wine (first time I started drinking) and Netflix and (actually) chill on her couch. We were like a couple without ever saying it, or consummating it. This charade would have gone on forever had she not climbed over me on the couch and kissed me. I kissed back and when we parted a wave of relief passed over her face as she exclaimed “Oh thank god, I thought you were gay!” I quickly laughed it off, “You’re not the first girl to say that.”

One night, while lying in bed, I confessed that I often thought about being a woman. She was understandably confused and cautiously probed me further. I got flustered and went to sleep.

Much, much later, near my coming out time she asked me The Button Question over dinner. I forget what prompted her to ask, but I do remember pausing for about thirty seconds before answering I wouldn’t press it. I knew what it meant to say “yes” and I wasn’t ready for that.

There was some occasional crossdressing with her as well, bringing us to our next topic.


I started to crossdress around the 6th grade. I did it mostly in private, and occasionally in public when I could get away with it. I “borrowed” clothes from my mom, sister and girlfriends, bought my own online, rummaged through clothing drives in my dormitory, and of course, purged my collection when I felt ashamed or thought I’d be discovered.

Crossdressing was a mixed bag. I felt compelled to do it. It was an extreme version of the hopefulness and disillusionment you may have experienced buying clothes. While shopping you imagine that you will look as good as the model if you bought that top or those shorts. Instead you realize that it wasn’t the clothing, it was the model’s body. Almost anything would look nice on her. Once dressed, I’d usually feel bitter disappointment. Nothing would fit right; instead it seemed to call attention to all the ways I was not a woman.

Nevada, by Imogen Binnie described it best through her character James (who is an egg).

After she came over that night, and after they had sex, and then after she went home, he did try it on. It looked like a skirt and a jacket, but it was actually only one piece, a dress. Maybe because he’d already come once that night, or because the dress was so ugly and stupid, or maybe because his ribs were all full of disappointment and helium, whatever it was, he didn’t even get turned on when he tried it on. He had expected to. The whole point of actually getting his first dress was to satisfy this impulse that was supposed to be all sexual.

He didn’t have a full-length mirror or anything, but he could barely figure out how to get his shoulders into it, and then it tangled around his ribs and armpits and he was worrying that he was going to stretch it out and ruin it— wouldn’t it be a tragedy, to ruin such a beautiful thing—but eventually he got into it and felt probably dumber than he had ever felt. There was tons of room and drape in the hips. His stomach, even though it barely even exists, bulged out against the front of the dress. He realized that he hadn’t known what he’d expected to feel when he tried this dress on, but it certainly wasn’t this emptiness verging on boredom butting up against wanting to die.

A painfully familiar feeling. There was nothing fun or sexual about crossdressing for me. It was wishful thinking that if I dressed like a woman maybe I’d look like one to (and then people would regard me as one and wouldn’t that be lovely).

Bras to Bed

While I lived at my parents house I frequently wore bras to bed. I would fold two boxers into squares for light padding. There was something right about sleeping with the weight on my chest. I was usually the first person awake in my house so the risk of discovery was minimal. As a backup I would move my night table over an inch to block the door. This way, if someone came to wake me it would buy me the seconds needed to recover my wits and avoid an awkward discovery.

I had a dream that my dad had woken up extra early one morning and knocked on my door. Bleary eyed, I climbed out of bed and opened the door and listened to my dad tell me he had to go into work early so he needed me to take care of the dogs. I nodded in ascension, he said good and then with a condescending smirk snapped a bra strap and left. My bowels turned to ice and I awoke with a start. It was so vivid that I wasn’t sure if it had happened or not. I was able to confirm after coming out that it was just a dream.

In Public

I only crossdressed in public twice. Once in high school and once in college. Always in the dead of night as to not run into anyone. I’d spend the entire time terrified until I made it to an empty public place with long lines of site where I could enjoy being out of my room.

I would occasionally trap it up and go on Omegle’s video roulette. I never said anything. I just wanted to figure out if I had a chance at passing.


A year and half after coming out I was at my family’s cottage on the lake. I still didn’t have a swimsuit, so my mom let me borrow hers. I went upstairs to put it on and halfway through dressing myself a wave of déjù vu passed over me, causing me to pause. I laughingly recalled how this was not the first time I “borrowed” my mother’s swimsuit. When I was younger, I would stay at the cottage when the family went to town and so I could try them on. The good news was that I looked much less ridiculous this time.

Freshman Year

During my freshman year of college I convinced my poor girlfriend, among other things, to let me dress up in her room and use some of her clothes (the ones that I wouldn’t immediately break in half at least).

While going through my Google Photos backup I found a short video of myself dressed up in her apartment that had apparently been spared during my purges. It’s very embarrassing. What am I wearing >__<;; (probably whatever I could find that fit).

Literally kill me.

She was also the girlfriend I was with during the end of the semester clothes collection. I surreptitiously went from bin to bin and floor to floor to see if there was anything in my size I could pilfer for my wardrobe.


My next girlfriend would not enable my crossdressing. Instead I had to goad her friends into suggesting it as a source of amusement. Eventually they’d drag a reluctant agreement out of me 😏

For Halloween I planted the idea that I should crossdress and dance with a slightly homophobic housemate of mine once he was sufficiently drunk. I went shopping with my girlfriend and tried on lots of clothes. I even found heels in my size and made up some lie how I came in possession of breast forms. The plan was a success. I passed well enough to give my plastered housemate a surprise greeting. Afterwards I went upstairs with my girlfriend. I was hopeful I’d get to wear the outfit, or at least the bra and breast forms but she insisted otherwise. Not her cup of tea.

As for the breast forms; I would wear them to sleep or while working alone in my room. Something about it just felt right.

The cycle of starting a secret wardrobe and then purging it continued until I transitioned. I’m still not a fan of drag or crossdressing. I almost snapped my spine in half cringing at the above video of myself. I’ve not watched RuPaul’s and I’m not going to your local drag event so stop asking 😛 It’s not my cup of tea.


Growing up I was very into a very specific subset of porn. Namely porn and erotica describing men becoming women. This is so niche that it is almost universally terrible. The writing is terrible, the art is terrible. You have to search a long time to find something worth reading or whacking off to.

MtF 3 Panel Magical Transformation If this is what you consider “porn” you might want to talk to a gender therapist.

To this end, there were a couple of content aggregators dedicated to sorting through this smut so that you could feast on the cream of the crop (so that you could harvest your own crop of cream). They invariably disappeared and someone would setup another one.

At one point there were no suitable aggregators for so long that I took it upon myself to build the next one. I learned Linux, how to administer servers, structuring databases, LAMP, front end and design. I built a truly terrible website. Content must really be king because lots of people liked it anyways though. I ended up rebuilding it much better a second time (although still awful). It got so popular that I ended up taking a computer science class to learn better software engineering techniques.

In summary, the reason I discovered I loved computer science, received a degree in it, got my first job and met S was due to my interest in porn. Thanks porn =^__^;;=

Eventually, my site mysteriously disappeared as well. I decided to put this weird fetish behind me and move on with my life (and failed miserably). Until read Nevada I had always assumed I was a deviant. Again, Imogen Binnie’s character James proves uncannily accurate:

It’s not like James is proud of the porn that he looks at, but what are you supposed to do? Will yourself not to be a pervert? He’s tried. He’s still trying. He tries most nights…He knows how this is going to end, though. He’s going to try to watch men fuck women for about half an hour, get depressed, not be able to even get hard, and then look at blogs of pictures of women with captions that turn the pictures into weird and absurd erotic transvestite scenarios.


It’s like, this is no longer a dumb picture from a fashion magazine or a porn shoot or a Halloween costume advertisement, subtitled with a stupid scenario. Suddenly this shit is functioning in your reptile brain the way that pussy is supposed to function.

James isn’t gay or anything. He’s not that into the ones where there are dicks. The ones with lesbians, sure, but he’s not into dudes or anything. Like, being a pervert would probably even be easier if he was gay…If you’re a straight guy who’s into the idea of being turned into a girl there’s not a lot of girls who are interested in being involved in that, probably.


It’s supposed to be called autogynephilia. It’s like a thing. That’s the name of the fetish. If it’s a fetish? James doesn’t know what it is. Being sexually attracted to oneself as female. Hot! Who wouldn’t be hot for that? Gross.

It’s the sort of thing you can never tell anyone. A secret you carry with you like an albatross stapled to your neck that you take with you to your grave.

Lots of other fetishes or whatever, like, you can frame them as cool…But wanting to be a girl? Not even like, I have known my whole life, man trapped in the body of a woman, whatever. Anyone can tell you that James is not a woman. James knows who Jennifer Finney Boylan is, and he is no Jennifer Finney Boylan. He’s just some fucking dude who wishes he was allowed to wear dresses.

He’s looking at a picture of a girl in a French maid Halloween costume: Philip’s girlfriend was furious! It seems he couldn’t be bothered to get a costume for her big party so she got one for him—and it was a dress! It’s absurd and he can’t even focus on it. He’s a million miles away, imagining how ridiculous he would look in that dress, working out scenarios for ways that he could ever connect with another human being about this stupid.


What kind of twenty-year-old guy has a lot of trouble coming unless his girlfriend is sucking his dick so he can think about the evil ice sorceress turning Brave Samson into a demure maiden?

Ugh. Fucking End Me.

If you’re “greatest fantasy” is to be turned into a woman you should probably see a gender therapist.

Getting Caught

My dad set up a proxy server between the LAN and the wider internet. I was tech savvy enough to avoid leaving a log of where I visited but I still made mistakes from time to time. Well, my dad must have been checking the logs because one day he came to talk to me about porn. Every kid’s nightmare made manifest. I thought I was going to be asked to explain what I couldn’t even explain to myself.

He told me not to watch anymore porn and nodded silently in agreement. He then handed me a book on LGB subjects and told me I could ask him if I had any questions. I flipped through the book scanning for the word “transgender.” It appeared only in a footnote. I distinctly remember thinking “This book has nothing for me” and throwing it under my bed.

Small Things

In a horrifyingly ironic way I was considered to be very secure in my masculinity. Disparaging my status as a “man” universally failed to register as an insult. Probably because I didn’t think much about being a man.

On the other hand, on the infrequent times I was mis-misgendered (referred to as a girl before I came out) my heart always soared.

I remember eating dinner with Nina and her mother. When the check came, they offered to pay for it since they had jobs and I was still in school. Her mom facetiously asked me “how I liked being the woman” and with a dumb grin on my face I said it felt great.

I’m still not sure how I rationalized these things to myself. I knew what I meant by that statement. I knew it made me feel good. I repressed connecting the dots.

Like this ancient photo:
Pre-transition Amy standing behind a cardboard cutout of a girl

I knew why I wanted a pic of my head in the cutout. So that I could go home and try to visualize what I might look like had I been born female. Never daring to ask “why” I would want to do something like that.


In the same way I wore a bra to bed most nights, I would lie in bed imagining being a girl. Trying to figure it out if it was better, if it would be worth the trouble.

Hypno Audio

Sometimes I would listen to these audio recordings that would hypnotize you into becoming a girl. Even as a middle school student I knew it was impossible. Most of them were fairly erotic and weird, but you could find a few vanilla ones. I suppose I’d take whatever had a chance at working.

Lucid Dreaming

I also had lucid dream in which I was in a hot tub on wooden balcony overlooking a snowy mountain side. A party was going on and there was a bunch of other teens milling about and having a good time. After sitting for a while I realized that I was dreaming and remembered the concept of lucid dreaming. No sooner than I remembered, a magic lamp appeared in my hands (apparently my way of making anything happen). I rubbed it an was granted one wish. I couldn’t think of anything I wanted so I wished for something dumb. So dumb I don’t even remember. I do remember my eyes opening in panic as I realized I could have wish for that.

Fortunately, the exiting genie acquiesced and granted my new wish. I was female! I sat back in the hot tub with a stupid grin on my face and enjoyed watching the fresh snow blanket the mountainside until I woke up.

Tests, Quizzes and Such

I spent a lot of time taking quizzes that purported to tell you if you were transgender or if you were more like a boy or a girl. I was also cognizant of the answer I wanted to see at the end of the quiz. I told myself the quizzes were meaningless but never stopped to think why I acted like they had meaning to me.


In middle school and possibly earlier, I was very well learned in chromosomal disorders, sex hormones and gender reassignment surgeries. I was particularly amazed how much hormone replacement therapy could change a person’s body. I was always scouring the internet for a case of someone very young transitioning. I frequently wondered what would happen if someone my age was started on HRT and if there were any countries that did it that early. Not that I would have wanted it done to myself, I was just really curious what would happen if someone my age did it. That’s all. I swear.


Growing up I was a big fan of the Animorph series; where teenagers gained the abilities to shape shift into any living thing they touched. I’m not quite sure when I first encountered them but it must have been between the ages of 4-8 given the series’ publication.

I remember seeing the fourth installment of the series upon walking into my school library. There was a girl changing into a dolphin into the cover and knew I had to read it. “I wonder if any boys change into girls in this series.” was my first thought upon finishing the book and I quickly read the entire series. I found out that a gender-morph does indeed happen. In book 43 Tobias morphs from a hawk into a woman. I always identified most strongly with Tobias while reading. Which was funny because we had nothing in common. Unless you count being stuck in the wrong body ¯_(ツ)_/¯

The End

That’s all I could remember. I’ll add to this as I think of more tranny bullshit I went through before I came out.

If you found this piece unreasonably engrossing, you’re probably an egg 😉